I wanted to share what I wrote for my mom and read at her funeral. You may not have known her, but you may find it fits someone you know.
As many of you know, my mom and I had differences of opinion on lots of things. We approached life with a different mindset. But we also agreed on many things. Mom often worried about what could go wrong. It didn’t help her live life to the fullest all the time, but she did it for the best of reasons. She loved her family and friends so much that she wanted to do everything she could to protect them. If you’re here today, she probably loved you. Once you were in her life, she didn’t let go. Whether it was one of her daughter’s former boyfriends or someone she met at a bingo, she kept the connection. And she knew how to show it – sending cards and notes, calling on the phone, giving gifts, giving of her time to visit you. I could probably prove just how much she loved us all by showing you her home. She had photos everywhere! Not just photos of her immediate family – photos of everyone in the family, all her friends, everyone’s children and grandchildren. It brought her joy to be able to see those she loved. There are pictures around all of the rooms. And there are additional drawers full of photos and memorabilia. If you have ever sent her a photo of your babies or visited for a party or attended a party where she also was, you are probably in those drawers. She didn’t just look at the photos and toss them away. She kept every one as a treasure. She kept the notes and cards you sent her. It was a tangible way for her to remember that she was loved, too. She taught her daughters and her grandchildren how to show other people that you love them, not just how to say it. If she were able to speak to you today, she would probably ask you to remember how much she loved you. She would tell you to remember how important family is. And she would tell you to make sure to show people how much you love them. Tell them, too. If you would like to honor my mother, I would ask you to do what she did – show love and kindness to those around you every day – not just family, but friends and strangers alike. Then you can be assured that she will be smiling – and I suspect you will be, too.