I used to be a Star Jones “fan,” of sorts. I thought she was funny and a strong woman who had accomplished a lot in her life. That was when I first came to “know” her on “The View.”
But she began to be a bit strident and pushy and I became wary. What was going on under that polished exterior? She began to seem snooty and greedy. I tried to keep an open mind. After all, none of us is perfect.
Then came “The Wedding.” I had definitely grown tired of listening to her whine about being single and wanting to be married. There was no man for her that was Mr. Right. No one good enough. Then suddenly, there was “The One!” The wedding plans then became the topic of most of her conversations, not to mention many of the program themes on “The View.” I grew weary of shows revolving around bridal gowns, cakes, flowers, bridesmaid dresses, venues, etc, etc, etc. . . . I admit I’m not a fan of big, fancy weddings anyway – I figure the focus should be on the idea of a marriage, not the shindig of one single day.
Star began to be given extravagant things for the wedding – well, maybe “given” isn’t the right word, since there was an obvious price – a plug on the TV show! My husband and I often comment on the fact that it seems the folks who are on the receiving end of generous “gifts” are usually the ones who could afford to buy those things for themselves. It’s the folks on the low end of the income scale that get short shrift here.
So Star, who had fame and money and a career, got freebies and discounts. But her wedding became a circus. There was no privacy or intimacy to an event that was documented step by step on TV. Still, I wasn’t ready to give up on her.
Star had trouble with some of her fellow co-hosts, most notably Rosie O’Donnell. I think even the best of us might have some problems dealing with Rosie on any given day. But I’m not ranting about Rosie today. Star became snipey and I was not unhappy to see her leave the show.
Still, I had been amazed that she had managed to lose so much weight. I was impressed because I haven’t been able to. The idea of losing 160 lbs was incredible. Even better, she had done it “on her own” – not surgically. She ate right and exercised. Surely I could do that, too. Oh it’s true – I couldn’t afford a personal trainer and exercise is really difficult for someone with fibromyalgia. But still, it gave hope to see someone do it. A reason to keep trying.
I finally became convinced that I needed the extra tool of lap-band surgery to restrict the amount of food I could eat at any given time. I followed the required program of the medical center after I found out that the surgery would be covered by my health insurance. Had the program been shorter, I may have had my surgery and been done with it. Instead, by the time I was at the point to have the surgery, my health insurance had changed it coverages and I was no longer covered!! Swell!!!!
After I recovered from the initial depression that this caused, I decided to start living and eating as though I had been able to have the surgery. So far, I’ve dropped about 15 lbs – not as much as I would have with the actual surgery, but more than I would have without this plan. I haven’t been hungry very often and I’ve tried to be a bit more active. I still have nearly 100 lbs to go.
But that’s what really burns my butt about Star. She lied to all of us, this woman who claimed to be a paragon of truth. She led us to believe that portion control and exercise were all she needed to lose 160 lbs. She could have been truthful. It would have been an example for and encouragement to others who were honest enough to admit they needed the surgery to have any hope to succeed. Instead, it was a burden placed on those very people that she could have been helping. This woman in the public eye, who had so much weight to lose, supposedly did it without surgery – why couldn’t they?
Now we know the truth – Star was a liar. I can understand if she didn’t want to talk about it. I know everyone isn’t like me, sharing the details of their health with others who might benefit from them in some way. She could have just said, “I had surgery and a prefer not to discuss the details.” She wouldn’t have become a “poster girl” for the surgery, unless she decided to exploit the surgery for “bennies” the way she did her wedding. Instead, she not only didn’t admit to having the surgery, she actively led us to believe she did it in a totally different manner. That is the same thing as telling a straight out lie. A lawyer would know that, don’t you think.
Anyway, now I know Star did it the “easy way.” I’m envious and sad. I was willing to admit to having done it with the aid of surgery and now I’m going to have to keep trying to do it without that tool. I also feel disillusioned that someone who claimed to value the truth, as I do, was a fraud. There was no honesty. It’s very disappointing.
I don’t know if there is anyone left in this country who knows how to tell the truth all the time, not just when it suits their needs. I do know the children are sorely lacking in the ability to tell the truth, and there is a distinct lack a role models in this area. They’ve lost one more.
I just hope I look better than she does when I reach my goal weight. She seems to look strained and as if she were in a bad mood in most of the photos I’ve seen. If I manage to lose over 100 lbs, trust me – I’ll smile and look pleasant – and I’ll keep telling the truth.